Growing up in the church we were taught that good Christian girls don’t get hurt, that if girls cover themselves appropriately they won’t get raped, that God takes care of his children. Well, I was getting hurt. Repeatedly. Was I not a good girl? Was I dressing inappropriately? Did God not love me? I began wearing layers to hide myself but that didn’t make it stop. The shame and self-loathing grew and festered as I blamed myself for everything that was happening.
Victim blaming is so absolutely destructive and we live in a society where it happens way too often. When there is this societal mindset that a woman was asking for it because of how she dressed she then either blames herself or doesn’t report the rape at all. We need to change this, and hold boys and men accountable for their actions. We need to prevent situations like mine, where hurt little girls grow up to be hurt big girls.
I’M STILL HURTING.